MOTIVATED TO SHINE LIKE A STAR

Have you ever deliberated what makes an individual a competent athlete? Or a good mentor? Or a good student? Why do some individuals accomplish their goals while others grind to a halt? It is the grit and passion to achieve long–term goals that makes the difference.


Motivation is a complex phenomenon. Sometimes it is easy to get motivated, and one can find himself or herself enveloped in unimpeded enthusiasm towards accomplishment of goals. Other times, it is nearly impossible to figure out how to motivate oneself and one is entrapped in the twist of procrastination.


What can we do to cross the mental threshold and feel motivated consistently? Motivation can unquestionably be made a “Habit” with the assistance of “The Goldilocks Principle”.
The “Goldilocks Principle” states that human beings experience peak motivation when working on tasks that are right on the edge of their current abilities. Not too hard. Not too easy. “Just right”. Working on tasks that abide by the Goldilocks Rule is one of the keys to sustaining long-term motivation. If you find yourself feeling unmotivated to work on a particular task, it is often because it has glided into an area of boredom or been pushed into an area of great complexity.


Motivation is defined as the process that initiates, guides, and maintains goal-oriented behaviors. Motivation is what causes you to perform most of the times, whether it is reading a book to gain knowledge or engaging in sports inorder to become an active player. Hence goal-setting is the requisite in the voyage of life. In today’s fast-paced domain, our dynamic involvement in our goals is a key challenge. Oftentimes, it’s all about finding the proper channel of motivation. Intrinsic motivation? Extrinsic motivation? Or perhaps a combination of both?
Intrinsic motivation is doing something for the sake of personal gratification. The key motivator is internal (i.e. you don’t expect to get anything in return). It can be said that an individual is intrinsically motivated when he/she does something simply because it makes him/her feel good, is personally challenging and/or leads to a sense of achievement. An example would be painting or sculpting for personal enjoyment, instead of profit.
Extrinsic motivation is doing something to gain a reward or to avoid a punishment. The basic motivator is external (i.e. you expect reward for completing a certain task, or you want to avoid a consequence for not doing something).


It can be ascertained that when we depend too much on external motivators, we learn to compare ourselves to others and may give too much weightage to external opinions. Is my superior happy with me because I did the assignment the right way? If we are always looking outside of ourselves for endorsement, we will be dissatisfied and discontented when that validation is not promptly or objectively obtainable and hence, our self-esteem can weaken. But, at times, the right incentive serves as the hook that gets students or employees devoted in their journey of learning and achievement. Every individual is in the growing phase, hence building a data bank of rich and splendid experiences can provide the basis for intrinsic motivation. The key is discovering the perfect equilibrium.

What to Do When Motivation Dwindles

Inevitably, an individual`s motivation to perform a task will drop or descend at some point. But the challenge ensues “What do we need to remind ourselves of, when we think of “giving up”.

  1. The Human Mind is a Suggestion device.
    Consider that every thought in the human mind is a suggestion, not an order. Right now, as I’m writing this article, my mind is suggesting that “ I am tired, I am bored”. However, if I pause for a moment, I can uncover some novel suggestions. My mind is also suggesting that I have the capability to finish this task and I will feel a great sense of achievement upon completion.
    However, none of these suggestions are orders. They are purely options and hence an individuaI has the power to choose which option to follow.
    Life is respectable, splendid, worthy and discomfort is momentary and transient. Step into this moment of discomfort and let it reinforce and fortify the inner self.
  2. Outline future actions and decrease the resistance or friction of “getting started”. An individual needs to find ways to systematize behavior in advance. Be the architect, designer, originator of your future actions, not the victim of them. Make use of an implementation strategy. An implementation strategy is when an individual declares his/her plan to implement a particular behavior at a specific time in the future. Appropriate use of this strategy can attain two to three times more likely execution of an action in the future.


Life is a constant balance between giving into the ease of distraction or overcoming the pain of discipline. We ought to be motivated and sparkle radiantly, no matter what we chose to do.

“PSYCHOLOGICAL RESILIENCE”- RISING ABOVE THE LIFEQUAKES

Are you able to deal with hurdles and pull through or invigorate from stumbling blocks ? Or do you ruminate on arduous issues that will negatively impinge on your life? Life is full of challenges and the key is not letting the challenges muddle your life for infinity.

Mental health influences how we think, feel and behave in our day-to-day life. It also affects our ability to cope with stressful situations, overpower challenges, foster relationships and recover from stumbling blocks and adversities in life.

Robust mental health is not just the absence of mental health problems. One can say that “mental health” refers to the cognitive, emotional and behavioural well-being of an individual. Looking after our mental health by striking a balance between life`s responsibilities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience can thereby safeguard an individual`s ability to cherish and respect life. 

An individual is grappled with numerous social, financial, biological risk factors and lifestyle preferences that impinge on an individual`s mental health in the voyage of life. It is important to note that robust mental health depends on a tactful balance of risk factors. An imbalance in the risk factors can directly contribute to mental health disruptions.

Some of the primary indications that are evident among these individuals include withdrawal from family, friends and colleagues, sense of hopelessness, consistently low energy levels, inability to complete daily tasks, disturbed sleep and eating patterns. These early signs ought to be dealt with, relevantly, to bring about a transformation at the cognitive and behavioural level in the individual.

An individual coping with mental health challenges will generally need to make alterations to their lifestyle to facilitate wellness, in addition to psychotherapy and medication. Relaxation techniques and mindfulness are also essential in the journey towards revitalization. Having a strong support network, whether via self-help groups or close friends and family is imperative. Nevertheless, having a strong mental health does not mean that an individual never goes through turbulent times. But just as physically healthy people are able to bounce back from infirmity or injury, people with strong mental health are better able to bounce back from adversity and distress. This ability is called “Resilience”. As much as resilience involves bouncing back from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth. Becoming more resilient not only helps you get through challenging and complex situations but it also empowers and invigorates you to grow and enrich your life along the way. Individuals who are psychologically resilient have the potential to muddle through challenging and arduous situations and uphold a positive mindset. Their resilience also makes them less fearful of novel experiences or an uncertain future.

In today`s challenging times, consistently reinforcing one`s mental health is the crux. And, Yes, it is certainly achievable!

Assume you are going on a river rafting trip. Besides, slow and shallow water, your map shows that you will encounter inevitable torrents and twists. How would you make sure you can safely cross the turbulent waters and tackle any unforeseen, unanticipated obstacles that arise from the challenge?

Perhaps, you would solicit the support of more experienced rafters as you plan your route or maybe you would pack an extra life jacket. With the appropriate measures in place, you will not only make it through the challenges of the river adventure, but you will also emerge a more confident and courageous rafter.

Likewise, life may not come with a well defined map and every individual will experience twists and turns, from daily challenges to traumatic, distressing events, experiences with a long term impact like the death of a loved one, a life altering accident or a serious life-threatening illness. Every single change impinges on individuals differently, thereby bringing an unique, distinctive surge of thoughts, emotions and behavioural manifestations. Nevertheless, human beings acclimatize well over time to stressful situations-thanks to resilience to a certain extent.  

Psychological resilience entails certain rudiments such as mindfulness, self awareness, positive and constructive relationships and clear purpose. By reinforcing these rudiments, individuals emerge more resilient and evade an overpowering downward twirl when stress is encountered in day-to-day life. We have heard the proverbial phrase “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. We are aware that lemons imply sourness or struggle in life, thus making lemonade is turning them into something more enjoyable and satisfying. Therefore, this phrase is used to promote positiveness and optimism amid adversities or hurdles and rise above the life quakes.